This Thing Called ... Motherhood

Something has been on my heart since last night.  I tend to refer to Kate as somewhat of a problem child.  She has been a difficult child and a challenge to me from the very beginning and that struggle is very much a part of my experience as a mother.  I'm still in the thick of it now.  But is talking about her in those terms damaging my view of her or my attitude towards her?  Is it disrespectful to her to talk about these struggles, or make jokes about her behavior and how I feel about that behavior, to others?  Am I doing harm to her as a result?  I wonder if my attitude will affect her future behavior and view of herself.  I never ever want to be a cause of low self-esteem in my children.  It is part of my job and desire as a mother to build up my children and teach them to be confident people with an acceptance and love for themselves.  (All those things that I often don't have myself!)  I pray that my tongue would be more judicious and that I would temper my comments more with comments of love and respect for the person I believe my daughter to be on the inside.  May God grant me the ability to see beyond the moments of frustration to the person inside and the person God created my Kate to be.  May I have the strength to deal with the hard times and help Kate develop her God-given gifts.  I want to see her as God does and speak about her as God would.